We believe that much of the pain and difficulty we experience in our lives and our relationships began in the past and stays active through the stories we tell ourselves and our habits. Our present day behavior and choices are influenced by the unspoken rules we learned in our family; unresolved grief; feelings of shame and inadequacy; and negative self-talk. Habits we learned, teaching that was not helpful, and needs that were not met often drive our present behavior. Thoughts, feelings and behaviors all can be changed through mindful awareness and compassionate choices.
Our approach to recovery and wellness is based on the belief that ineffective, shame motivated, or destructive behavior patterns can be changed through a gradual, compassionate relearning process that combines education, awareness, insight and choice-making.
As our identity and self esteem are restored, our choices become healthier, our self-compassion increases, and the quality of our lives and relationships improves. Change is possible!
All Licensed Professional Counselors associated with Counseling Center have achieved at least Masters level degrees and have extensive experience in individual and group therapy.
All therapy groups are structured; screening by staff counselor is required before group begins.
We provide individual and couples counseling as a starting place for all interested clients. Group work is an important option for some clients.
People pleasing is a learned behavior, a habit, a way of being in the world that results in resentment and imbalance in our relationships.
If you find yourself taking care of others instead of yourself, saying yes when you'd rather say no, seeking approval, feeling resentful and guilty too much of the time:
Join us for a circle of learning and support.
What if you do not have to keep being "nice" and taking care of others? Learn to value your needs and feelings as much as those of others, and deal with the guilt of saying no. People pleasing prevents us from having freedom to choose our own path, and create a life and relationships that are genuine and authentic.
We will meet for 90 minutes each week for 6 weeks. Mindfulness start dates are offered every quarter, call for next start date.
The essentials of mindfulness will be practiced and discussed. The group fee is $50 per week for 6 weeks, or $200 paid in full the first night. The group is led by Nadine Hillesheim.
This experience will assist attendees with establishing a mindfulness practice and give all an opportunity to practice and learn about mindfulness, meditation, and the value of being present in each moment of each day. Mindfulness helps us learn to recognize when we are caught up in our busy minds and step back to access fresh, more effective options. We can learn to take a different stance towards our thoughts and move to a more peaceful and effective way of dealing with life's inevitable ups and downs.
Benefits of mindfulness include:
What we believe about ourselves, about love, and relationships impacts how we behave, what we share and what we expect from our relationships. Join this 8-week group to examine the dynamics of authentic connection, with oneself and others. Shame issues, self-love and compassion, as well as relationship patterns and skills will be explored.
The better we know and accept ourselves, the better we can be to and for others. Authentic connection and vulnerability require knowing and expressing our feelings and needs with one another. Love is more than a feeling; it is a way of being.
We will meet for 8 weeks and explore family history, communication patterns, shame, boundaries, grief and how our family patterns are shaping our current patterns. Self care and developing self compassion will also be explored. Cost is $70 per week; $500 if paid in total on the first night. Facilitated by Deb Chambers.
I am a Master's level professional counselor with more than 35 years of experience providing couple's,
individual and group therapy. I enjoy my work and consider it a privilege to assist people in improving the
quality of their lives and relationships. I work with people to change patterns and self defeating habits,
improve self care and self compassion, develop mindfulness, live out their true nature and free themselves
from shame, anxiety and depression. Topics frequently worked with in my office include grief, forgiveness,
shame, letting go of control, co-dependency and approval seeking, intimacy, compassion and self-care,
family of origin, and acceptance. I believe relationships are important and require maintenance to stay
vital and healthy. At a very basic level, I have found knowing one's own self, having a sense of humor,
asking a good question and taking a breath are all useful companions in the journey toward health and a
meaningful life.
I am a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and Licensed Psychologist. I have more than 30 years of
experience and I love my work as it allows me follow my passion of helping people find meaning and master
whatever challenges they face with care and compassion. I work with individuals, groups, and couples. I see
our internal relationship with ourselves to be central to our personal happiness and the health of any other
relationship we may be in. My areas of experience include mindfulness training, anxiety, depression, couples
therapy, trauma, EMDR, loss, emotional overeating, and self-value/self-compassion. While I often work with
painful issues, I see the place for humor at times. I also believe mindfulness and acceptance can help us
move through struggles with more ease.Come to this 2 hour experience to discover and identify where and how change can help you build healthy relationships with others and a better relationship with yourself.
We will discuss the origins and possible paths forward to move out of codependence and toward healthy connection.
By participating, you'll gain valuable insights into the dynamics of codependency and begin to develop strategies to establish and maintain healthier boundaries. You'll learn to recognize patterns that may have been holding you back and discover techniques to foster self-compassion and personal growth. Join us to embark on a journey towards a more balanced and fulfilling life.
This is an overview, good for beginners or someone who wants to refresh and check in on how they are doing.